By Joy Abrams MA, FSII
my class at college a young couple came up to me and rather
sheepishly asked me if I had time to come to their home to
Feng Shui their bedroom. I told them that they now know the
tools to do this themselves since it was the last night of
the course. After talking with them for a while and seeing
how insistent they were, I felt they needed some help. They
told me that they had their bedroom decorated and spared no
expense, yet they hated to go into their bedroom. I asked
them if they were experiencing any problems between them and
they assured me that all was going well with them. In Feng
Shui, we learn that it is not just about the place but how
we resonate with our place that is the utmost importance.
So, with that in mind, I proceeded to their home the next
a great deal of time surveying the surrounding neighborhood
and area as all consultants do, and found nothing that would
impede good energy from coming to their site.
entered their home, I spoke with this charming couple and
asked them about what their hopes were concerning this consultation.
They answered by simply saying that they just wanted to feel
more comfortable in their bedroom, and at the present time
this was not a place they wanted to be in. I needed to see
why their physical environment was not a place that they could
depend on and feel a sense of comfort in.
what I saw as I looked into the situation. Leading to their
bedroom was a long entry hall that was empty. At first glimpse
of the bedroom, I saw a beautiful French provincial desk with
large calendar on it and posted notes pasted all over it.
There was also a date book on the desk as well as unpaid bills.
The bed was a beautiful king size bed that was French provincial
in style. It had no headboard and it was positioned against
arcadia doors that led out to a lovely garden. In the far
right of the room was a high tech looking square table and
the two chairs that were also French provincial in style were
facing opposite each other. Under the bed were storage shelves
and they stored work files there. They had a large screen
T.V. opposite the bed. They had a mirrored wall reflecting
the foot of the bed and the bed, and they had a view of the
bathroom from the bed.
them that I would get a report to them in a week that would
get them started in making some symbolic changes that would
help them to reach their objective. After handing them the
report we spoke together about some of the remedies that I
suggested to them.
hallway needed a magnet to draw them into the bedroom. I suggested
a plant or more light or a pretty sculpture that they both
liked. I told them that, their bedroom needs to have drawing
power which an object or a light gives us saying to us,˛ You
are here and can be comfortable and at home˛. I furthermore,
went on to tell them that their bedroom needs to be a haven
for rest meditation and connection.
Having a desk in sight that has a myriad of mundane things
for one to do takes away from the purpose of the bedroom.
I told them that if they must have the desk there, screen
it off with a lovely screen or place plants in front of it
that will symbolically separate it from the rest of the space
and it's intentions. The bed's position in the room was good
as it was furthest from the door with a view of the door.
However, the fact that it was resting against an arcadia door
was bothersome. I explained to the couple that they needed
a wall behind their bed. This would symbolically act as support
for them in the many years ahead of them. Since the bed could
not be moved, I suggested a cure and that was to place a heavy
blackout drape behind the bed and keep it closed at night.
The blackout drape would symbolically act as a strong wall
giving the couple the support they wanted and needed. I also
suggested that they get a headboard for their bed for the
The high tech table that they had was square with sharp corners,
and that I explained a new couple can do without, as these
sharp corners do not resonate well with people who sit at
such a table. I suggested that they get a soft tablecloth
and drape it on the table so that it would act as a round
table that would be more conducive to their communicating
and connecting in this space. I also suggested that the two
chairs be side by side with a view of the door placing them
both in the power position. I explained to them that if they
were both empowered they would feel better about the space
and sitting there.
The storage under the bed needed to be removed. I explained
to them that anything heavy under their bed can pull them
down in their relationship especially since it was work files,
it had no place in the bedroom.
The mirrored wall at the foot of the bed needed to be removed.
I explained to them that for the most part mirrors are distracting
as well as a thing of the ego and with few exceptions most
of us don't like to wake up and look at ourselves first thing
in the morning. Fortunately, they agreed.
I also explained that the T.V. if they must have it should
have some sort of covering on it so that any energy that was
not positive would not be directing toward them. I suggested
that she use her grandma's shawl over it when not in use.
She loved her grandma and she loved the idea.
Since the bathroom was contiguous to the bedroom and you could
see the bathroom from the bed I suggested that they keep the
bathroom door closed. I also suggested that they place a picture
of their dreams and aspirations on the offending wall and
place a piece of tin foil shiny side behind it, and facing
the bedroom. The tin foil would act as mirror reflecting away
the bathroom's energy from the bedroom area.
The young couple said that they would go about making the
changes and report to me in a couple of months about how they
were feeling. I told them that I would do another consultation
at that time because we only scratched the surface and I did
not do a complete consultation and this was only immediate
suggestions. I heard from this charming young couple in three
months when they insisted on taking me to dinner and said
that the suggestions worked so well and that they love spending
time in their bedroom and that they are so happy now. I told
them that I would be glad to come back and finish the consultation,
and their reply was,˛We don't want to upset a good thing˛.
I lost out on another consultation but made lifetime friends
and what could be better. This consultation reconfirmed to
me what I learned while studying and that is that Feng Shui
is not just about place. Place is our tool, but Feng Shui
is how we experience our physical environment around us.